We discussed An Extreme Esteem Makeover in Part I and in Part II we continue with the details of what An Extreme Esteem Makeover actually consists of. While doing a Google search for the term “extreme esteem makeover,” I could not help but notice that most of the sites using that keyword term were offering different types of cosmetic surgery and dental work. While I am not opposed to these external improvements and physical corrections ( I have a few corrections I would like to make myself!), I am crystal clear that changing the outer does not change the inner if the recipient is unhappy with who they are inside.
If anger and disappointment are haunting your life, ask any beautiful supermodel, being beautiful does not make you love yourself more.
The truth is that no matter how many people love you, it is your own love and respect that you and I, and each of us are seeking above all others. This is not about seeking approval but about approving ones self.
When you wake up feeling miserable and someone says, “Good morning – how are you today?” and you grunt something about feeling terrible and not sleeping well or being depressed and in a bad mood, being beautiful with a perfect smile does not make you suddenly feel fabulous and happy.
When your boyfriend says he does not want to get married and in fact, thinks its time to move on and see other people, being a size 36DD with a perfect smile and a small waist does not make you feel great or even okay about the breakup. Looks have nothing to do with true self esteem.
In our workshops we find that self esteem is directly connected to sense of self identity, family relationships, purposefulness, generosity and awareness of service to others, being respected and heard even when young, and instilled with a sense of trust and reliability. Short of that, it is a matter of clearing all the life experiences and issues that either delude or prevent us from having healthy relationships and self respect.
Some of the issues we focus on concern anger and forgiveness – one of the major topics, others are about family relationships – parents, siblings, spouses, ability to give and receive love, and false beliefs. There are several sessions targeting money and the ability to receive and keep money. All of these topics are powerfully loaded with negatives for many people who are struggling to find happiness and success, and each can prevent a person from experiencing the fullness of a satisfying and rewarding life,particularly when left unaddressed.
We do several workshops that all address the issues above because these topics are common areas of frustration and failure. Some are more targeted to individuals in group settings, yet others are geared to couples, still others address couples and their entire families – especially couples planning a second or third wedding with merging families. That area is a mine field of baggage that can make or break a couples future life together. Merging multiple marriages and families can be too much history and pain to leave to chance.
Anyone starting a small business would do well to work with us if they have any reservations about their ability to be successful because there are many personal issues that determine success aside from the business plan. Lack of personal success and satisfaction is related directly to self esteem, false beliefs, and anger issues. We have seen a lot of failed attempts and experienced a good portion of it ourselves. Identity, anger, and forgiveness baggage can undermine success and often does. Relatively few people seem to escape these life lessons. Why waste more time when you can begin learning to clear the baggage and take your life back – maybe for the first time
Our workshops are always limited to 20 people or less and are very interactive. There is a new workshop starting every month.
